WHY ME?

Each time you try on a dress and feel bad that it does not flatter, you ask yourself, Why me?

 When the weighing scale keeps rising every time you step on it, you ask yourself, Why me?

Watching continuous body transformation videos, motivational talks, diet plans and so much more, but still when nothing changes you ask Why me?

This is a weird question you know. Each one of us in our life is stuck with this question in various ways. It’s easy to say, “Hey, get over it and be proud of whom you are…”  Really? Is it that easy? No, it’s not. “You’re just lazy to work out!” “You are not disciplined enough” “Why do you care what people say?” and the worst line “You are beautiful inside and out” (do we really feel this way?) When you constantly listen to this it’s like eating a chill and staying calm. It’s too hot for you, but still, you have to be proud of it. Some of them put on a calm face but, it’s still burning on the insides.   

It’s very hard to feel beautiful when you scroll through pictures of influencers and fashionable women with a gorgeous body. You start to think, I would never get into that or I would never look that good. An amazing effort has been put towards raising the body-shaming issues and bringing up the concept for “All Shapes & Sizes”, however does it really matter for a person who is constantly on the verge of looking good? For a woman who has given up on looking good completely, just because she can’t see her bulges everywhere through the outfits.

However, fashion-forward the society gets or accept the women by who she is, it is still unacceptable or ‘shameless’ when she wears a plunging neckline; especially a plumpy women. “Oh! Don’t wear that top, your chest looks bigger” “Those pants are way too tight for you, your thighs look fat” we all have heard this; it might be you telling it to someone or they telling it to you.

I’m not telling it’s wrong to point out, but for a woman who constantly looks in the mirror to hate her body, it’s difficult to digest. Sometimes you just smile and get over with those words, or laugh it out with them. Deep inside those words hurt and worse the next time she tries to dress up, it lowers her left-over confidence as well.

There a few people who have got over this and have created an image about themselves, but how much of it is true? After dieting the whole day and posting on the media about it, she may eat chocolate and cry out all night. The happy face that does the plus-size model shoot, sulks within when she is categorized in it. In these moments that weird question comes up again, “Why Me?”

The next time you give out free advice to any kind of people, be it fat, skinny, short, dark or anything. Please, SHUT UP! Not everyone will have the courage to talk back.